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Marriage At An Early Age And It’s Benefits


MATRIMONY AT AN EARLY AGE AND ITS BENEFITS

SHAYKH FOWZAN

Taken from: ISLAAM’S SOLUTION FOR THE PROBLEMS FACING TODAY’S YOUTH, Pgs. 44-48

From among the benefits of getting married at an early age is the obtaining of children, which make the youth delighted at their presence.

Allah says:

And those who say: “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the Muttaqûn ” (pious – see V.2:2 and the footnote of V.3:164).” (Al-Furqan 25:74)

Wives and children are a deligh; Allah prmised that marriage brings about pleasure. This pleasure encourages and persuades the youth to take an interest in matrimony.

This is also similar to how Allah mentioned that childred are a share of this world’s beauty.

Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world. But the good righteous deeds (five compulsory prayers, deeds of Allâh’s obedience, good and nice talk, remembrance of Allâh with glorification, praises and thanks, etc.), that last, are better with your Lord for rewards and better in respect of hope. (Al-Kahf 18:46)

Therefore, this world is adorned by children. The human-being seeks out adornment the same ways he tries to obtain wealth. Similarly, he craves for children, because they are equal to wealth in their existence. This is in this world. Then in the hereafter, righteous children can benefit their fathers as the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam said:

Whenever the son of Adam dies his action stop except three: Knowledge that benefits people, a recurring charity, and a righteous child that supplicates for his parent .”

(Hadeeth Saheeh, Collected by Muslim #1631)

The second benefit of matrimony at an early age is that it produces children increasing the Muslim Ummah and Islaamic society. The Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam said

Marry the loving and fertile, for verily I want to have the largest Ummah on the Day of Resurrection.”

 

[Hadeeth Saheeh, Collected by Abu Dawud in his Sunnan (#2050), An-Nisa'i in his Sunnan As-Sughara (#3227), Al-Hakim in Al-Mustadrak (#2/162), and Ibn Hibban in his Saheeh (#4057), Al-Baghawee in his Sharh-us-Sunnah (#9/17), Al-Bayhaqee in his Sunnan AL-Kubara (#7/81) on the authority of Ma'qal Ibn Yasaar. Graded Saheeh by Al-Albani in his checking of Abu Dawud.]

Great blessing result from marriage. From among them are the ones we previously mentioned. So if these virtues and blessings are explained to the adolscents, then the fallacious problems that hinder people from getting married will disappear.

As for the saying that, getting married at an early age diverts from gaining knowledge and from studying, this is not the case. Rather, the opposite of this is correct because tranquility, peace of mind, and pleasure never cease to be obtained through marriage. These things help the student to reach his goal because, he has peace of mind, and his thoughts are not cluttered due to discomfort and this helps him study.

Now on the other hand abstaining from marriage in reality blocks whatever knowledge he wants to attain, because it is not possible to acquire knowledge in a state of confusion and anxiety. However, if he gets married, his mind is at rest and his soul is at ease. He gets a house to take as a shelter and a wife who relaxes and helps him. These things help him to attain knowledge.

If Allah makes it easy and this marraige becomes a source of comfot to become a relationship, then this is from among the things which make it easy for the student to pursue knowledge. Matrimony does not block the path to knowledge as some believe. For that reason, having children is an enormous blessing in this life and in the next.

As for the statement that marriage at an early age burdens the adolsecent to supply provisions for his children, wife and other responsibilities, this also is not correct. Along with marriage comes blessings and well-being. Matrimony is obedience to Allah and His Messenger sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam and there is good in every act of obedience. So if the youth gets married following the orders of the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam by seeking the blessings that have been promised with the correct intentions, then this marriage will be a reason for his blessings. The provisions are in the hands of Allah.

Allah, the Mighty and Majestic states:

وَمَا مِن دَآبَّةٍ فِي الأَرْضِ إِلاَّ عَلَى اللّهِ رِزْقُهَا

And no (moving) living creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allâh.

(Hud 11:6)

Consequently, if Allah makes it easy for you to get married, then He will make providing for your children easy.

نَّحْنُ نَرْزُقُكُمْ وَإِيَّاهُمْ

We provide sustenance for you and for them. (Al-An’am 6:151)

Marriage does not burden the young man above his ability as some of the people think. Marriage brings benefits and blessings. Matrimony is a necessary Sunnah of Allah for the human-being. Matrimony is not a horrible nightmare. It is only a door from the doors of righteousness for the person with the correct intention.

As for the excuses about the obstacles placed in the path of marriage, then this is from their evil behavior. Marriage in itself does not require such things as a plump dowry, parties which amount to more than required or other expenses with no authority from Allah. Rather, what is required is a wedding with ease.

Hence, it is a duty to clarify to the people that these extravagances placed in the path to a wedding bring about evil consequences for their sons and daughters. These extravagances are not from their well-being. Therefore, it is a must to remedy these problems, so that matrimony can return to its ease and convenience.

We ask Allah the Glorious and Most High to grant us the safety of success, guidance and to rectify the condition of all of us. We ask Allah to rectify the Muslim youth and to return the Muslims to their rank and honor the same way Allah gave the Muslim honor before. We ask Allah to return this honor and to rectify the Muslims state.

Allah says the Most High:

وَلِلَّهِ الْعِزَّةُ وَلِرَسُولِهِ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَلَكِنَّالْمُنَافِقِينَ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ 

But honour, power and glory belong to Allâh, His Messenger (Muhammad Sallalahu ‘Alayhe Wasallam), and to the believers, but the hypocrites know not. (Al-Munafiqun 63:8)

We ask Allah to give the Muslims insight in their religion and to protect them from the evil of their enemies. Peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and all his companions. Praise be to Allah.

 

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  1. coolguymuslim
    July 20, 2007 at 1:32 am

    assalamu alaykum, great post, masha’Allah, sh. fowzan is the man…

  2. July 20, 2007 at 12:38 pm

    Yep, if the children in question are mature enough physically, emotionally and mentally then why not allow them to marry. Theres no reason to prevent or hinder it, provided they be made aware of what marriage entails.

    However, a one rule fit all approach for marriage isn’t possible and would vary from case to case. Understandably.

  3. July 20, 2007 at 2:43 pm

    Agreed sister. May Allah reward you with good.

  4. abu muadh
    March 11, 2008 at 3:36 am

    asalam alaykum,it is very happy to be a knowledgable muslim so brothers and sisters in islam seek the diyn knowledge,i loved the topic discussed marriage at an early age

  5. abu muadh
    March 11, 2008 at 3:45 am

    asalam alaykum, it is very happy to be a knowledgable muslim so brothers and sisters in islam seek the diyn knowledge,i loved the topic discussed ”marriage at an early age”

  6. lonsaa
    May 19, 2008 at 1:34 pm

    so talha..what are you waiting for? you’re not getting any younger you know..lol

  7. May 19, 2008 at 1:59 pm

    lol… : )

    We ask Allah to bless us with pious righteous spouses who will be a comfort for our eyes as He the Most High mentions in His statement:

    “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the Muttaqûn ” (Al-Furqan 25:74)

  8. asifbinhusain
    December 12, 2008 at 1:15 pm

    As-salaamu ‘alykum wa rahmatullaah wa barkaatuhu
    Alhamdulillaah, Indeed marraige in early stage has great benefit. Indeeed we are ordered to get married if one is able to do so. This also helps us to lower our gaze, away from sin like fornication and by the permission of Allaah, it gives mental peace of mind and stability. But we find execuses, of going to college to have a university degree (including myself), or to find a work, to to have a better standard of living, Allaahu”mustaan. Then Allaah makes us taste of what our hands (evil) have earned. Allah subhanahu ‘Taalaa wants good for us (beleivers), but we choose another path.
    Allah the Most High says: “And whatever afflicts you from a clamity, then it is from what our hands have earned, and he Allaah pardons much’ [Ash Shoora, 30]

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  10. umm ayyoub
    November 5, 2009 at 10:30 am

    Assalamu alaykum, jazaakAllah khayr for a very beneficial website.

    As for this article, what about women marrying at an early age? The man would acquire peace, and have a home and a wife to look after him, and this would ASSIST him in seeking knowledge. But marriage greatly increases the responsibility upon the woman of looking after the house, the husband, bearing children etc. which hinders her from having the time to seek knowledge.

  11. November 12, 2009 at 8:57 pm

    JazakAllah khair for your comment. If the husband is a good husband towards his wife, then he should make sure that his wife also has time to learn her Deen since this Deen did not come down only for the men; rather it is for both the men and the women alike.

    And we know that we have been commanded by Allah to save ourselves and our families from the fire whose fuel is men and stones.

    How can a husband know this ayah and neglect the education of his wife and his daughters?

    The husband in helping his wife with the household chores will be helping her in making out time to learn her Deen inshaAllah.

  12. November 17, 2010 at 4:46 am

    Bism Illah wa as salaamu alaykum wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh.

    Mashaa’Allah, wa tabbaarak Allah, wa barak alayka.

    Jazaak Allahu khayran for all your efforts to benefit those of us who want authentic knowledge seeking to obey Allah, subhaana wa taala, and His Messenger, salla Allahu alayhi wa salaam. May this weigh heavily on your right hand side and elevate your ranks in Jennah al Firdaus amongst the forerunners – ameen.

    I have a question in regard to marriage at a young age. There are cases of young women (perhaps 14, 15, or 16 years old) who are of low intelligence. They may not have completed school, may have failed school, or may never have progressed past a second or third grade level. They may lack common sense and, despite modeling, teaching, guidance, and dua’, have limited comprehension of Islam, emaan, or taqwa. While it appears preferable to marry these types of girls at a young age so that the husband can keep her on right guidance and she doesn’t fall into haram, what of the husband? What kind of husband does one seek for such a young woman? Is it wanting the best for one’s brother to offer this young woman in marriage to a strong believer? Such a young woman may be a trial and a fitnah, may require a great deal of supervision and correction, and may not offer any understanding ear to her husband.

    I have read that it is important to have wives who are sincere in faith, have peity and taqwa, and have intelligence. This is a great factor in the quality of the children. Where do the women who don’t fall into this category fit into the picture?

    • November 26, 2010 at 7:23 am

      I will try to get your question answered from one of the du’aat or ahlul ilm inshaAllah.

  13. December 2, 2010 at 5:19 am

    Dear brother. I need your permission to repost this piece on my blog, because lately I have had heated debate with some people over young marriages.

    I will post the link to your original blog and cite you as the original author of this post.

    May I?
    Regards,
    Sarah.

    • December 12, 2010 at 11:43 am

      Yes sure not a problem. If you need help with the debates, let me know if I can be of help.

  14. Musa Khan
    November 9, 2011 at 10:12 am

    Asalam O alaikum… i have same point of view not after reading that but from the time i got awareness .. i m 22 years and no girl friend entered my life, cuz i don t want to and i never let anyone entered .. cuz i can hide myself from people but how could i hide from Allah, who’s eye is on me all of the time.. and i don t fear from anyone else besides Allah … so that was the reason i being like this and my mom brought me up in a very gentle manner taught me all islamic knowledge. due to which i m capable of controlling myself, there is a limit of blocking a thing or thought and now i m in such a position that it is becoming difficult for me to fight against requirements of life partners and Allah has created this sense in us… i asked my parents to find a girl cuz i hate love marriage….they saw many girls but i was rejected on the basis that i m student … i hate dowry and i never wished to have it from anyone and i m good looking not bad looking i mean colored eyes, brown hairs white complexion, infact rejected only basis of job ,.,.. i m student of ACMA Associate Cost and Management Accountant ….. stood first in accounting nationwide … and second in aggregate marks nationwide… i don t want any money from anyone but still i m rejected ,…. I SIMPLY DON T WANT TO WALK BACK ON DEVIL DEEDS …. hazrat Yousuf AS never accepted bad way demanded by Zulaikha …. so being their follower i will also not … NABI SAW said a student can marry to prevent bad deeds and can stop birth of child only till he is student .. but prohibited to act on devils path … i m also in search of a good girl … and i shared my experience with u ..people infact run from such man … my relatives often argue with me .. i replied that Wealth is hatred by NABI SAW why u ask me to earn first .. the way NABI SAW lived i m much wealthier than that ….. SAW kept stone on his stomach to lower food requirement and why we run after money wealth … today people muslims don t care for that he is good, religious and righteous .. they only seek bank balance .. and i m rejected several times on this basis and i have started hatring such people .. i suggest everyone to convey islamic principles to as much people as they could so that they could come out of evil deeds…

  15. Shu`aibu Umar Gokaru
    July 13, 2012 at 6:46 am

    Jazakallahu khairah ya Sheikh Fauzan

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