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The Doors of Success

January 31, 2009 1 comment

Shaykhul Islaam Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah

Reference: Al Fawaai’d by Ibn Al Qayim: P. 161

Shaqeeq Ibn Ibaraheem said:

“The doors of success have been closed upon the creation because of
six things:

Their busying themselves with the blessings of Allaah instead of
thanking Allaah for them,

Their desire for knowledge while they abandon actions,

The hastiness to sin and delaying repentance,

The deception of having righteous companions and not taking them as
examples,

The turning away of the dunya from them while they chase it,

And the approach of the afterlife towards them while they turn away
from it.

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The benefits of marriage should be explained to the youth until they desire it

January 27, 2009 4 comments

SHAYKH FAWZAAN
Taken from: Islaam’s Solution For The Problems Facing Today’s Youth, pgs. 42-44
From among the problems facing the adolescents is that they abstain from marriage. This is a big problem. The youth abstaining from matrimony produces serious harm and no one knows the outcome except Allah. They use the following alleged reasons for abstaining from matrimony.

  • Getting married at an early age diverts from studying and getting prepared for the future.
  • Getting married at an early age burdens the youth with the responsibilities of providing for his wife and children.
  • The most dangerous reason for the youth turning away from marriage is the obstacles which are placed in the path topwards marriage such as extravagant celebrations. And at times the youth can not afford the espense of these celebrations.

In my opinion, this is the biggest reason why these adolescents do not get married. The remedy for this problem is simple if we correct our intentions.


First, it should be explained to the youth that the merits, superiority, and blessings that lied within marriage outweigh the obstacles and difficulties we previously mentioned. There is not anything in this Dunya except there is a trade off. I am not saying that marriage is easy and that there are not any difficulties or hardships. There are difficulties and problems in marriage however; the benefits of marriage outweigh the problems and difficulties that occur. Consequently, these virtues make those difficulties and hardships forgotten. The benefits of marriage should be explained to the youth until they desire it. Marriage helps people protect their private parts and lower their gaze.

The statement of the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam points to this


O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power .”


[Hadeeth Saheeh. Collected by Bukhari and Muslim on the Authority of Ibn Mas’ud.]


The Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam specifically instructed the youth to take part in marriage, because they are prepared for it and have the ability.

It is appropriate for the youth to get married at an early age if he or she has the ability and means to do so. Praise is to Allah – currently this is predominately the case. There isn’t any excuse for the youth to leave off getting married. The Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam explained the merits of getting married at a young age. Matrimony protects the private parts, because the private parts are very dangerous if unguarded.

Allah subhana wa ta’ala says:


“And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts from illegal sexual acts). Except with their wives and the (women slaves) whom their right hands possess — for (then) they are not blameworthy.”

Surah Al-Ma’arij: 29-30


Matrimony protects the private parts. This is to say that marriage safeguards a person from a great evil. Marriage protects that organ and lowers the gaze. If the youth gets married, he will be delighted. He would not be looking here or there at women or at what Allah has prohibited. As a result, Allah saved this person from the haraam by giving him the halaal. By Allah’s bounty, this person was saved from adultery and fornication.

Second, marriage helps a person to attain tranquility and ease.

Allah subhana wa ta’ala says:


“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.”

Surah Ar-Rum: 21


Whenever the youth gets married his soul is relieved from agitation, anxiety and he has a piece of mind.


“That you may find repose in them.” Surah Al-Furqaan: 74


Verily, the matrimony of this youth is among the reasons for his tranquility and serenity. Accordingly, matrimony is a reason which numerous blessings spring from.

The Wisdom Behind Making Supplication After Wudhu

January 25, 2009 1 comment
As salaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh.

Shaykh Saalih al Fawzaan (hafithahullaah) mentioned: “The reason behind mentioning dhikr and invocation following ablution is to combine both physical and spiritual purity, for ablution is a means of physical purity, whereas dhikr and invocation (implying monotheism and repentance) are signs of spiritual purity. In this way, one becomes in the most perfect state of purity (combining both physical and spiritual purity) and becomes pure enough to be admitted to stand before Allaah in prayer, imploring Him humbly and submissively.
“Mulakhkhas al Fiqh”

Vol. #1, Chapter 7, Page 43 (Eng. Version)
Shaykh Saalih al Fawzaan

Excellent Story by Dr. Saleh as-Saleh: Camel Given In Charity

January 24, 2009 2 comments

 

Assalam Alaikum wa rahmatulah

From a forwarded mailing…
This is a real story happened. Don’t miss to read


I would like to share this short Story with you which was narrated to us by 
Dr. Saleh as-Saleh (May Allah Have Mercy upon him) in his room Understanding- islam1. You can listen to the audio The Camel Given In Charity 

The Sheikh began:

“Do you want hear this real story which took place here about a hundred years ago. (In Saudi) Tayib. This is real! This is real!”

He continued:

“Bismilaahi Rahmaani Raheem. This story took place here about hundred years ago and it was also broadcasted on the radio stations. It is about a man call Ibn Jad’aan. He (Ibn Jad’aan) said how during Spring
times he used to go out. He would see good and healthy fat camels and their udders filled to the extent of almost exploding. Whenever the little offspring (i.e. the calf) came close to the mother camel, her milk would pour forth because of the great abundance of blessings and abundance of goodness.

So I (Ibn Jad’aan) looked at one of my she camels with her calf and I remembered my poor neighbour who had seven young daughters. So I said to myself, by Allah I will give this camel and her calf as Sadaqah (charity) to my neighbour – and he recited the Ayah where Allah said in (Surah Al-imraan: 92):

“By no means Shall you Attain piety righteousness unless you spend in Allah’s cause of which that you love”

And the most beloved from amongst my cattle, to me, is this she-camel. So I took her along with her calf and knocked on the door of my neighbour. I told him to accept it as a gift from me. I saw his face glooming with happiness and he was unable to utter anything in response.

So he benefitted from its milk and used to load wood on its back, awaiting for its offspring to grow up in order to sell them. Subsequently, he gained great good from this camel.

After the spring had passed, the dry summer came with its drought, and so the Bedouins began looking for water and grass. We gathered our belongings and left our places looking for water and the duhool (plural of duhul) or ‘holes’ in the earth, situated underground leading to water traps underneath the ground. Their openings are on top of the ground, as the Bedouins know of very well.

I (i.e. Ibn Jad’aan) entered into one of these holes so as to bring some water to drink…

Dr Saleh continued: “and his (Ibn Jad’aan’s) three sons were waiting for him outside the hole. However he did not return. His three sons waited for him for one, two and three days and finally became hopeless.

They said maybe he was stung by a snake and died or he was lost under the earth and destroyed. They (and we seek refuge in Allah from this) waited for his destruction. Why? Due to greed in order to distribute his inheritance.

So they returned home and divided what he had left, amongst themselves. Then they remembered that their father (Ibn Jad’aan) gave a she-camel to their poor neighbour. They went to their neighbour and told him that it is better that he give them back the she-camel and take another camel in replace of it, otherwise they will take it by force and he will be left with nothing.

The neighbour complained that he would report them to their father. So they informed him that he had died. He inquired as to how and where Ibn Jad’aan had died, and why they hadn’t told him. They then explained how he entered into one of these holes underground in the desert and did not come out.

The neighbour said: ” By Allah take me to this place and take your she-cameland do whatever you do with it and I don’t want your camel in return!”

They took him and when he saw the place, he went and brought a rope, lit a candle, tied it outside the duhul (the hole) and then stepped into it crawling on his back until he reached the places whereby he could crawl and roll. Eventually the smell of moisture became closer and then all of sudden he heard the sound of a man by the water groaning and moaning.

He went closer and closer towards this sound in the darkness putting his hand out all over until his hand fell onto the man (Ibn Jad’aan). He checked his breath and he was still breathing after one week! He pulled him out covering his eyes so as to protect him from the sunlight. He took with him some dates, moistened them in water and gave it to him to drink.

He then carried him on his back and took him to his house and life gradually return to this man whilst his sons didn’t know. He then asked him: “Tell me, by Allah, one week while you were underground and you didn’t die?!”

“I will tell you something strange…” Ibn Jidaan explained: “…when I went down there I got lost and waves took me from all directions and I said to myself I’d better stay close to this water that I have reached. So I started to drink from it, but hunger had no mercy and water does not suffice. Then after three days hunger intensified on me and took me from all parts. While I was lying on my back I surrendered myself to Allah and put all my affairs in his hands and all of the sudden I felt the warmth of milk pouring onto my mouth. So I sat in the midst of the darkness and I saw a pot coming closer to my mouth. I drank from it until I took from what is sufficient and then  it would go! This occurred three times in the day but the last two days it stopped and I didn’t know what happened.”

His neighbour then informed him:

“If you know the reason you will be amazed! Your sons thought you had died and they came to me and took away the she-camel which Allah (Subhaanahu Wa Ta’Aala) was giving you from its milk!”

The Muslim is in the shade of his Sadaqah (Charity). Allah stated in (Surah At-Talaaq: 2,3): “…and whoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to him, he will make a way for him to get out (from every difficult)” and “…and he will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And who every puts his trust in Allah, then he will suffice him”.

By: Dr. Saleh as-Saleh May Allah have Mercy upon him. Ameen.

Source: (www.understand-islam.net) please visit the site to listen to the original lecture this is just my notes.


Listen to other interesting stories by Dr saleh as-saleh

Which is Better? Doing the Obligation or Leaving off the Prohibition?

Shaykh Saalim at-Taweel hafidahullah mentions in his lecture “Explanation of the Seven Great Destructive Sins – Part 1” about which one is better:

“Doing the Obligation or Leaving off the Prohibition?”

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We were the lowliest of people..

Ibn Shihâb reports:

`Umar went out to Shâm (Transjordan) and Abû `Ubaydah b. Al-Jarrâh was with us. They came to a ford while `Umar was on his camel. He dismounted his camel, took off his leather socks, placed them on his shoulder and took the reins of his camel and began to go down the ford.

Abû `Ubaydah said,

“O Leader of the Believers! You are doing this?! You take off your leather socks, put them on your shoulder, take your camel’s reins and go down the ford?! I wouldn’t want the people of this land to see you in such a state!”

`Umar said,

“If only someone else had said this O Abû `Ubaydah. You have made a lesson for the Ummah of Muhammad – Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him! We were the lowliest of people but Allah gave us might and glory through Islam. If we seek glory through other than what Allah gave us glory through, He will abase us (again).”

In another version Abû `Ubaydah said:

“O Leader of the Believers, should the armed forces and elite of Shâm meet you in this condition?”

`Umar replied,

“We are a people whom Allah gave might and glory to through Islam, so we will never seek glory through anything else.”

Reported by Al-Hâkim, Al-Mustadrak Vol.1 pp61, 62. He declared it to be sahîh according to the criteria of Al-Bukhaârî and Muslim. Al-Dhahabî and Al-Albânî concur. See Al-Albânî, Al-Sahîhah Vol.1 p50.

Looking at the woman one intends to marry

 

Looking at a Woman One Wants To Marry

 
From Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah (Radiyallaahu ‘anhu): “The Messenger of Allaah (Sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallem) said: ‘If one of you proposes marriage to a woman, if he can look at her to see that which will encourage him to go ahead and marry her, then let him do so.’ I proposed marriage to a young woman, and I used to hide where I could see her, until I saw that which encouraged me to go ahead and marry her, so I did so.'” According to another report he said, ‘a young woman of Bani Salamah. I used to hide from her, until I saw that which encouraged me to go ahead and marry her, so I did so.” (Saheeh Abi Dawood, no. 1832, 1834)

From Abu Hurayrah (Radiyallaahu ‘anhu):  “I was with the Prophet (Sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallem) when a man came and told him that he had married a woman of the Ansaar. The Messenger of Allaah (Sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallem) said to him, ‘Have you seen her?’ He said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘Go and look at her, for there is something in the eyes of the Ansaar.” (Reported by Muslim, no. 1424; and by El-Daaraqutni, 3/253 (34))

From El-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah (Radiyallaahu ‘anhu):  “I proposed marriage to a woman, and the Messenger of Allaah (Sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallem) said: ‘Have you seen her?’ I said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘Look at her, because it is more fitting that love and compatibility be established between you.'” According to another report: “So he did that, and he married her and mentioned that they got along.” (Reported by El-Daaraqutni, 3/252 (31, 32); Ibn Maajah, 1/574)

From Sahl ibn Sa’d (Radiyallaahu ‘anhu): “A woman came to the Messenger of Allaah (Sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallem) and said: “O Messenger of Allaah, I have come to give myself to you (in marriage).” The Messenger of Allaah (Sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallem) looked at her closely, then he lowered his head. When the woman saw that he had not made a decision about her, she sat down.One of his Companions stood up and said, O Messenger of Allaah, if you do not want her, then marry her to me…'” (Reported by El-Bukhaari, 7/19; Muslim, 4/143; An-Nisaa’i, 6/113 bi Sharh El-Suyooti; El-Bayhaqi, 7/84)

What the ‘Ulamaa’ (scholars) Say About Looking at a Woman OneWants To Marry

Esh-Shaafa’i (Rahimahullaah) said: “If he wants to marry a woman, he is not allowed to see her without a headcover. He may look at her face and hands when she is covered, with or without her permission. Allaah says (interpreted to mean): ‘… and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent…’ (An-Noor 24:31). He said: ‘The face and hands.'” (El-Haawi El-Kabeer, 9/34).

Imaam An-Nawawi (Rahimahullaah) said in Rawdat Et-Taalibeen wa ‘Umdatul-Mufteen (7, 19-20): “When (a man) wants to marry (a woman), it is mustahabb (preferable) for him to look at her so that he will have no regrets. According to another view, it is not preferable but it is allowed. The first view is correct because of the ahaadeeth, and it is permitted to look repeatedly, with or without her permission. If it is not easy to look at her, he may send a woman to check her out and describe her to him. A woman may also look at a man if she wants to marry him, for she will like in him what he likes in her. What is permissible for him to look at is the face and hands, front and back. He should not look at anything else.”

Abu Haneefah (Rahimahullaah) permitted looking at the feet as well as theface and hands. (Bidaayah El-Mujtahid wa Nihayyat El-Muqtasid, 3/10)

“It is permissible to look at the face, hands and feet, and no more than that.” Ibn Rushd also quoted it as above.

Among the reports from the madhhab of Imaam Maalik:

He may look at the face and hands only.

He may look at the face, hands and forearms only.

A number of reports were narrated from Imaam Ahmad (Rahimahullaah) , oneof which says that he may look at the face and forearms.

The second says that he may look at what usually appears such as the neck, calves and so on.

This was quoted by Ibn Qudaamah in El-Mughni (7/454), Imaam Ibn El-Qayyim El-Jawziyyah in Tahdheeb Es-Sunan (3/25-26), and El-Haafiz Ibn Hajar in Fath El-Baari (11/78)… The reliable opinion in the books of the Hanbalis is thesecond opinion.

From the above, it is clear that the majority of scholars say that a man is allowed to look at his fiancée’s face and hands, because the face indicates beauty or ugliness, and the hands indicate the slimness or plumpness (literally, ‘fertility’) of the body.

Abu’l-Faraj El-Maqdisi said: “There is no dispute among the scholars that he is permitted to look at the face.. the focus of beauty and the place at which onelooks.”

Shaikh ‘Abdul Azeez Bin Abdullaah Bin Baaz [Raheemahullah] was asked:
Question: If a young man proposes marriage to a young lady is it obligatory that he sees her? Also, is it correct that the young lady uncover her head to show more of her beauty to her proposing fiance? Please benefit us and may Allaah benefit you
Answer: There is no harm (in the man seeing her), however it is not obligatory. Rather, it is recommended that he sees her and she sees him, because theProphet commanded the one who proposed marriage to look at the woman. This is because that is better for causing agreement and harmony between themSo if she uncovers her face for him, and her hands and her head, there is no harm in that according to the correct opinion. Some of the people of knowledge have said that it is sufficient for her to uncover the face and the two hands. However,the correct opinion is that there is no harm in him seeing her head, face, hands and feet, based upon the mentioned hadith (above). However, this is not permissible with him being alone with her. Rather, her father, or brother, or someone else must be with them. This is because the Prophet said, “A man must never be alone with a woman unless there is someone who is a Mahram with them.” (Agreed upon in Saheeh El-Bukhaari and Saheeh Muslim). He also said, “A man must never be alone with a woman, for verily the Shaytaan is their third.” (Et-Tirmidhi and Ahmad)
(Sheikh ibn Baaz, El-Fataawaa ash-Shar’iyyah fil-Masaa’il il-‘Asriyyah min Fataawaa ‘Ulamaa’ il-Balad il-Haraam, pp. 498-499.)