Archive for October, 2008

Event: Guidelines for a Blissful Marriage Life


Shaykh Abu ‘Abdur-Rahman Mohamed ‘Ali
Abu ‘Abdul-Wahid Nadir Ahmad

(Both are Graduates of Islamic University of Madeenah, Faculty of Hadeeth and studied under various scholars)

Carleton University, Azrieli Theatre, Room 301

Friday, Oct. 31st
Saturday, Nov. 1st



Friday evening:
* Choosing Your Spouse
* How the Prophet (peace be upon him) Dealt with His Wives
Saturday evening:
* Maintaining a Blissful Marriage
* Our Obligation Towards Our Children

Free admission for both brothers and sisters.

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Update Thursday 10/30/08:

As-salaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh,

For those who cannot come to the seminar, they will still be able to listen from home, in-sha-Allah.  This seminar will be broadcast over the internet LIVE via Paltalk in the following room:

Religion & Spirituality > Islam > Dar As Sahaba Live Seminar

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Jazakumullahu khair


The Muslim Family – Ebook and Articles

The Family
by Shaykh Abdus-Salaam Burjs (rahimahullaah)
“The Muslim family has a rectifying core role in a society. If the family is rectified and sound, adhering to the Divine Legislation of Allaah and producing righteous children who are part of the Islaamic society, the Islaamic society will be rectified sound and steadfast.”

Family Etiquettes: Guidelines for the Husband in Interacting with His Wife
by Dr. Marwaan al-Qaisee
“1. It is not from the deficiencies, but rather from good manners, that the husband shares in the responsibility of specified matters, such as the mending of garments or what is similar to that.

2. It is appropriate for a man to not restrict himself from serving himself. This is since the wife takes care of the household affairs. So therefore, it is from good manners that the husband extend a helping hand to his wife in the house, during times of necessity, such as when she is sick, pregnant, has given birth or similar to that.”

The Obligation of a Woman Obeying Her Husband
by Sh. Saalih al-Fawzaan
“Shaikh-ul-Islaam Ibn Taimiyyah (rahimahullaah) said commenting on Allaah’s saying: “Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in the husband’s absence what Allaah orders them to guard (i.e. their chastity).” [Surah An-Nisaa: 34]: “This mandates the unrestricted obligation of a woman obeying her husband, in all affairs, such as serving him, traveling with him, assisting him and other matters, as is indicated in the Sunnah of Allaah’s Messenger.” “

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Precious Advice

October 26, 2008 2 comments

O Muslim! You believe in Allah and in the final day, its reward and its punishment. You believe in the day of reckoning and the paradise and hellfire. You know that Allah sees you, He hears you, and that He knows the core of your conscience. He loves what will benefit you and hates what will harm you. He loves that which is permissible for you and hates that which is impremissible for you.

With that said, I remind you to take account your soul and that you return to the obedience of your Lord, your Master, your Protector. The One Who created you, provides for you, gave you life, and forgives you.

The One Who feeds you, gives you to drink, clothes you, and provides you with shelter. He strengthens you with intelligence, hearing, sight, knowledge, and understanding. He taught you what you did not know and gave you preference over many that He has created.

So praise Allah my Muslim brother and thank Him with all of your heart, tongue, and good deeds by doing what He made obligatory on you and by leaving what He forbade you.

At the forefront of that is Tawheed of Allah and being sincere in worshipping Him only. Then focus on performing the five daily prayers on time with the congregation in the Masjid. It is a pillar of the religion and a connection to the Lord of all of the worlds. It is from the religious rites of the Muslim that distinguishes between Islaam and Kufr. It expiates the sins and faults. It prohibits lewdness and objectionable matters. Allah has obligated it upon you and upon every Muslim who is mature and sane. He has obligated it for every situation whether in good health, illness, while resident or during travel, during times of safety and in times of fear based on one’s capacity:

{Allah does not burden a soul beyond its capacity.}

I remind you that the one who abandons prayer is a disbeliever whose blood is permissible to be shed. Such a one cannot marry a Muslim woman. His deeds are not accepted. He does leave inheritance to be inherited and does not inherit from others. When he dies he is not to be washed or shrouded and definitely not to be prayed over. He is not buried in the graves of the Muslims except for the one who repents (before dying). Allah will accept his repentance as He is atTawwaab (the One Who accepts repentance), ar-Raheem (the Merciful). Returning to the truth is better than to be persistent upon falsehood. So repent to your Lord my Muslim brother and protect the observance of your five daily prayers.

Have remorse for your pervious shortcomings in obeying Allah and resolve never to return to disobedience before you die remorseful when remorse will not benefit you and you will despair of your negligence.

O Allah guide us to Your straight path. O Allah accept our repentance for indeed You are atTawwaab, ar-Raheem. O Allah send peace & blessing upon our prophet Muhammad and upon his family and companions.

By ash-Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (rahimahullah)
Taken from Risaalah fee al-Ghusl, wal-Wudhoo, was-Salaah pages 57 – 62
Translated by Aboo ‘Imraan al-Mekseekee-may Allahu guide him

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Relying on some deeds, forgetting others

Relying on some deeds, forgetting others

It is reported that Abû Ayyûb Al-Ansârî – Allâh be pleased with him – said, “A person might do a single good deed, rely on it and forget sins that he regards insignificant, but then meet Allâh (on the Day of Judgment) with those sins surrounding him. And a man might commit a sin, but never stop fearing its consequences, until he meets Allâh safe and sound.”
Al-Hâfidh Ibn Hajr, Fath Al-Bârî, references this narration to Asad b. Mûsâ’s Al-Zuhd. A slightly different wording is reported by Ibn Al-Mubârak in Al-Zuhd wa Al-Raqâ`iq Vol.1 p170.
Categories: Sayings of the Salaf

The Order Umm Saalim gave to her son to say La Ilaha Illa Allah


We find in the books of the Sunnah, prophetic history, biographies and later history, examples of when the Muslim women undertook the enjoining of good and the forbidding evil on individuals from the public, relatives and friends, in areas relating to belief, the regulations of the religion, manners, etiquette, explanation of the Quran, morals, etc. By the will of Allah, I present below some of these instances:


When Umm Salim al Ansariyyah accepted Islam, her husband Malik Ibn Nadr was displeased, and made clear his displeasure. But she paid no attention to his impression, and instead began to invite her son to pronounce the shahadataan. (Declarations of Faith).

Imam Ibn related from Ishaq Ibn ‘Abdullah, who related from his grandmother Umm salim that when she believed in the messenger of Allah may peace be upon him, she said ‘And so Abu Anas arrived-he had been absent and said, “ Have you become a heretic?”

She replied, ‘I have not; instead I believe in him.’ She said, ‘And so I started to invite Anas, pointing towards him; say “La illaha illa Allah.” Say “I bear witness that Muhammad is the messenger of Allah.”

Ishaq Ibn Abdullah said ‘so he (Anas) did.’

He said, ‘so his father said her, “Do not corrupt my son.”

And so she replied, ‘Indeed, I am not corrupting him.’[1]

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Etiquettes of Speech According to Sunnah

Etiquettes of Speech According to Sunnah

Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported: “I heard the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, saying: “A person utters a word thoughtlessly (i.e., without thinking about whether it is good or evil) and as a result, will plummet into the fire of Hell deeper than the distance between the east and the west.” [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim]

Abu Hurayrah, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “A man may utter a word pleasing to Allaah without considering it of any significance, but for which Allaah elevates his ranks (in Paradise); another one may speak a word displeasing to Allaah without considering it of any importance, but for which he would be plummeted into Hell.” [Al-Bukhaari]

Abu ‘Abdur-Rahmaan Bilaal bin Al-Haarith Al-Muzani, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “A man may speak a good word without knowing its worth, for which Allaah records for him His good pleasure until the Day he will meet Him; another man may utter an evil word without realising its importance, for which Allaah records for him His displeasure until the Day he will meet Him.” [Maalik & At-Tirmithi]

When the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam was talking to Mu’aath, may Allaah be pleased with him, he told him: “The root (i.e. foundation) of this matter is Islaam, its pillar (mainstay) is the prayer and its apex is Jihaad (fighting in the cause of Allaah).” Then he sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam asked: “Shall I tell you of that which holds together all these things?” Mu’aath, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: “Yes, O Messenger of Allaah!” So he sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam held his tongue between his fingers, and said: “Restrain this.” Mu’aath, may Allaah be pleased with him, asked: “O Messenger of Allaah! Will we really be held to account for what we say?” The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam exclaimed: “May your mother lose you! Most people will be thrown on their faces into the Hellfire on account of their tongues.” [Ahmad & At-Tirmithi]

Ibn Mas’ood, may Allaah be pleased with him: “That which requires imprisonment the most is one’s tongue.”

`Adiyy bin Haatim, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam as saying: “Allaah will surely speak to every one of you without an interpreter. He (i.e., the one being spoken to) will look to his right and see nothing but (deeds) which he had done, and will look to his left and see nothing but (deeds) which he had done. Then he will look in front of him and will find nothing except the Hellfire facing him. So protect (yourselves) from the Fire, even if by giving in charity half a date, and if you cannot find that, then with a kind word.” [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim]

Between The Past And The Future

al-Fawaa’id, pp 151-152
Al-Istiqaamah, No. 2

Your life in the present moment is in between the past and the future. So what has preceded can be rectified by tawbah (repentance) , nadam (regret) and istighfar (seeking Allaah’s forgiveness) . And this is something that will neither tire you, nor cause you to toil as you would with strenuous labour. Rather it is an action of the heart.

Then as regards the future (then it can be corrected) by withholding yourself from sins. And this abandonment is merely the leaving of something and to be at ease from it. This also is not action of the limbs, which requires you to strive and toil. Rather this is a firm resolve and intention of the heart – which will give rest to your body, heart and thoughts.

So as for what has preceded, then you rectify it with repentance. And as for the future – then you rectify it with firm resolve and intention. Neither of these involves any hardship or exertion of the limbs.

But then your attention must be directed to your life in the present – the time between two times. If you waste it, then you have wasted the opportunity to be of the fortunate and saved ones. If you look after it, having rectified the two times – what is before and after it, as we have said – then you will be successful and achieve rest, delight and ever-lasting bliss. However, looking after it is harder than that which comes before and after it, since guarding it involves keeping to that which is most befitting and beneficial for your soul, and that which will bring it success and well-being.

Imaam Ibnul Qayyim Jawziyyah