The Difference Between Men and Women in Islaam

Have you wondered what are the differences between men and women in Islaam? In worship, in character, in leadership, in marriage, etc?

Now you will find those answers inshaAllah. An amazing post. Hope it will be beneficial to all!

The Difference between Men and Women in Islam
By Shaykh Yahya ibn Ali Al-Hajuri (may Allah preserve him)

Character and Creation:

  1. Man was created from dirt and the woman was created from the rib.
  2. Allah has decreed the menstrual cycle for the woman and not the man.
  3. Men grow beards women don’t, but if she does it’s permissible for her to shave it.
  4. Women are deficient in their intellect and religion. i.e A woman witness = ½ a man and during menses she doesn’t pray and fast.
  5. The men have been given strength over women.
  6. A man’s semen is white and a woman’s is yellow.
  7. It’s an obligation to circumcise the man and its sunnah to circumcise the woman.
  8. Ear piercing is permissible for women and not for men.


  1. The urine of the woman is stronger and more dirtier than the man’s
  2. It’s legislated for man to redo Wudu if he intends to have relations with his wife a second time in the same setting.


  1. The Athaan and Iqamah aren’t a must for the women and it’s incorrect for a woman to call them for men.
  2. A woman prays behind a man, even if she’s alone. However if a man prays behind another man alone, his prayer is incorrect.
  3. A woman can’t lead a man in prayer.
  4. If a woman leads the prayer for other women she must stand in the middle. When a man leads the prayer he stands in front row all alone.
  5. Congregational prayer is must for the men and not the women.
  6. The best row for women in congregation is the last and the best row for the men is the first.
  7. Walking to prayer at night is recommended for men, but not for woman.
  8. If the imam makes a mistake in prayer the women clap and the men say “ Subhanallah”
  9. The women don’t have to attend Jumu’ah; and men must attend Jumu’ah .
  10. Women can’t deliver the sermon for Eid, Jumu’ah, Eclipse prayer and Rain prayer.
  11. Prayer is invalid when a woman passes in front of a man. And if a man passes in front of another man during prayer, it’s still valid.
  12. The Eid prayer is an obligation for men, but not for women. However it’s recommended for women to attend if they are safe from fitnah.

Funeral Prayer:

  1. The congregation stands at the head of the deceased man and at the middle of the deceased woman.
  2. It’s disliked for women to visit the graveyard and it’s recommended for men.
  3. Women can’t accompany a funeral procession, but men can.
  4. Women wash and shroud each other and men wash and shroud each other; unless they were spouses.

Zakah and Sadaqah:

  1. Women are encouraged more than men to give charity.
  2. A woman can pay Zakah on her children’s and husband’s behalf, but a man can’t pay Zakah on his children’s and wife’s behalf.
  3. Redemption is a duty for the man and not the woman. This can occur if a man intentionally had relations with his wife during daylight in Ramadan.
  4. A woman can’t fast voluntarily unless she has her husband’s permission. A man doesn’t need his wife’s permission to fast voluntarily.


  1. A woman must have a Mahram when travelling.
  2. A woman mustn’t raise her voice during the Talbeeyah; and  a man should raise his voice.
  3. A woman’s Ihram is the clothes she wears for the journey.
  4. A man can do Ramal-a slight jog between Safa and Marwa, and around the Ka’bah; and a woman shouldn’t.
  5. It’s not recommended for the women to try and kiss or touch the black stone during crowding.
  6. A man can ascend on Safa and Marwa, however a woman mustn’t.


  1. For a girl one sheep is sacrificed and for a boy two.

Jihad, Battle and Leadership:

  1. There were no women Prophets or Messengers.
  2. A woman can’t be a leader for the people or the military.
  3. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took the pledge from the men through a handshake and from the women by speech.
  4. Women aren’t obliged to perform Jihad unlike the men. However there are certain conditions that must be adhered to before the men embark on this  obligation.

Marriage , Divorce, Iddah, Kulla’:

  1. Women are given the Sadaq, not the men.
  2. Men have the authority for divorce, marriage and giving the Mahr, not the women.
  3. A man can marry a woman from Ahul Kitab if he knows she frees from Zina. A woman doesn’t have this right.
  4. A man can have more than one wife. A woman can’t have more than one husband.
  5. The Waleemah and wedding are the responsibility on the man not the woman.
  6. It’s permissible for the women to beat the Duff at their wedding. This act isn’t permissible for the men.
  7. Maintenance and support are the duty of the men not the women.
  8. A woman is under the authority of her husband. A man isn’t under the authority of his wife.
  9. A woman can’t have anyone visit her home unless she gets her husband’s permission first. A Man doesn’t need permission for visitors in his home.
  10. The Angels curse the woman if her husband separates from her bed. The husband doesn’t receive this curse.
  11. A woman must have her husband’s permission before she leaves home. A man doesn’t need his wife’s permission to leave home.
  12. A man doesn’t have an ‘Idda unless he wants to marry his ex-wife’s sister or aunt. However if he divorces his fourth wife and wants to remarry, then he must wait until his ex-wife concludes her “Iddah.

Dress and Adornment:

  1. It’s recommended for a woman to adorn herself in her home for her husband.
  2. It’s haraam for a woman to imitate a man in his dress.
  3. It’s an obligation for the women to sag their clothes below her ankles. Sagging pants and thoubs below the ankles is Haraam for men.
  4. A woman can’t change her clothes unless she’s in her own home. This act doesn’t apply to the men.
  5. A woman must wear Hijab: cover her face and body.
  6. Women can wear jewelry.
  7. Men can’t wear silk, but women can.

Taken from : Kashful Watha’I by Shayk Yahya Al-Hajuri
Translated by Abu Aaliyah Abdullah ibn Dwight Lamont Battle- Adam


  1. February 21, 2010 at 12:24 pm

    About “The Athaan and Iqamah aren’t a must for the women”:

    This is something that the majority of the muslimeen lean towards as far as I know, but the mother of the believers, ‘Aaisha, used to give both the adhaan and the iqaamah,

    Please refer to this post –

  2. February 21, 2010 at 7:24 pm

    JazakAllah khair for your comment. Yes, ‘Aisha radiyallahu anha did used to say both the adhaan and the iqaamah.

  3. Jawwad Mateen Khalil Ibn Maryam
    February 21, 2010 at 10:51 pm

    Al hamdulillaah the issue of women in Islaam. In the land of kufr our Sister are being attack for their practise. And we do not help, when we do not use hakim in this religion our belief are base on evidence. This should have been a three part series with evidence so people could see that Prophet Muhammad[saas]admonish the women not degrading them. People who hate this religion will misuse the information to attack us saying we oppress women. When Islaam free women from a lot of social i’ll and protect their honor as nurtures of the human race. So when giving Da’wah look at the people who you are talk to Insha Allaah you will post the evidences in another part series BarakAllaah Feekum

  4. Fahiima
    February 22, 2010 at 6:13 pm

    “The urine of the woman is stronger and more dirtier than the man’s”
    Say what!
    Has scientific study been done to demonstrate this?

  5. February 22, 2010 at 6:16 pm

    Br Jawwad,

    We appreciate your comment. InshaAllah, we will be posting the proofs for these statements inshaAllah.

    Our goal is to not say anything unless there is a sound proof for it. And all these statements are built on solid proofs.

    Please check back in the future to see the evidences for these statements.

  6. February 22, 2010 at 6:55 pm


    As for your comment if there has been any scientific study done to prove this; then I will say I do not know and Allah knows best.

    However, science does not always give us the answers. If we know something from our Creator because of revelation from Him, then we believe in it and accept it with full submission.

    I do not know if you are a Muslim or not, but the scholars have taken the following ahaadith below and explained from this that the urine of the female is stronger than the man’s. This is taken from the following statement of the Prophet (peace be upon him): “The urine of a female child should be washed (thoroughly) and the urine of a male child should be sprinkled over.”

    Chapter 139 in Sunan Abu Dawud (Book 1 – Book of Purification): How to clean the clothe smeared with the urine of a child

    Book 1, Number 0374:

    Umm Qais, daughter of Mihsan reported that she came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) with her little son who had not attained the age of eating food. The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) seated him in his lap, and he urinated on his clothe. He sent for water and sprayed it (over his clothe) and did not wash it.

    Book 1, Number 0375:

    Narrated Lubabah daughter of al-Harith:

    Al-Husayn ibn Ali was (sitting) in the lap of the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him). He passed water on him. I said: Put on (another) clothe, and give me your wrapper to wash. He said: The urine of a female child should be washed (thoroughly) and the urine of a male child should be sprinkled over.

    Book 1, Number 0376:

    Narrated Abu al-Samh:

    I used to serve the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him). Whenever he intended to wash himself, he would say: Turn your back towards me, So I would turn my back and hide him. (Once) Hasan or Husayn (may Allah be pleased with them) was brought to him and he passed water on his chest. I came to wash it. He said: It is only the urine of a female which should be washed; the urine of a male should be sprinkled over.

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