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Is It Permissible to Wail over the Dead?


Is it permissible to wail over the dead?

It has been authentically established in the saheehayn on the authority of Ibn Mas’ood that the Messenger of Allah said:

“They are not from us; those who beat their cheeks, tear open their garments, and call out with cries from the days of ignorance.”

It has been established in saheeh Muslim that the Messenger of Allah said:

“There are four things from the affair of the days of ignorance that my nation will not abandon; boasting about one’s status, criticizing people’s lineage, seeking rain from the stars, and wailing over the dead. And if the wailing woman does not repent before she dies, she will be made to stand on the Day of Judgment wearing a garment of tar and a mangy coat of armor.”

In addition,  the Prophet peace be upon him freed himself from the woman who raises her voice, shaves her hair, and tears her clothes while in mourning as mentioned in the saheehayn by Aboo Moosaa.

It has also been authentically established in Saheeh Muslim by way of Umm ‘Atiyyah who said, “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) stipulated when he accepted our solemn vow of allegiance that we do not wail, but none of us were able to fulfill this except for five, and from them was Umm Sulaym.”

It has also been authentically established in the Saheehayn that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

“Indeed the deceased will be tortured for those who wail over him.”

This narration is understood to apply to the one for whom this wailing has become customary and indeed he is tortured because of it.

Alternatively, if he did not teach his family, because indeed Allah says:

“O you who believe! Protect yourselves and your families a Fire whose fuel is people and stones.”  [Soorah at-Tahreem 66:6]

If not then Allah the Mighty and Majestic says:

“And none shall be made to bear the burden of another.” [Soorah al-An’aam 6: 164]

Therefore, if the wailing occurs for a reason other than what has been presented, then there no sin upon him because of this verse. Verily, Aa’ishah used to censure ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar when it reached her that he would mention this narration and then cite this verse for further evidence,

“And none shall be made to bear the burden of another.”  [Soorah al-An’aam 6:164]

Nevertheless, reconciling between what has preceded is the correct position.

Wailing over the dead is from the major sins, however if the crying occurs with a voice which is soft and subtle, then there is no harm in this. For indeed, the Prophet (peace be upon him) wept when his son Ibraaheem passed away and he said:

“Indeed the eyes shed and the heart grieves but we will not say anything except that which pleases our Lord. Certainly, O Ibraaheem, with your departure we are grieved.”

Source:  My advice to the Women. By umm’Abdillah al Waadi’yyah

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  1. Yasir Mir
    June 8, 2009 at 6:44 am

    WHat should be done when someone dies?

  2. June 8, 2009 at 10:58 am
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