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Importance of Marrying a Righteous Person

Importance of Marrying a Righteous Person

Taken from: Majmoo’ah As’ilah Tuhim Al-Usrah Al-Muslimah” 95-96

English Translation taken from the book: The Structure of the Muslim Family (Appendix 6)

Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Saalih Al-‘Uthaymeen said:

“My counsel to the men who desire to get married is to select the type of woman that the Messenger advised to marry when he sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam said:

‘Marry the fertile, affectionate women.’ And he sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam said:

‘A woman is married for four reasons: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty, and for her religion. So marry the one who is good in her religion.’

Also, the woman should choose to marry someone who is religious and has a good character due to the saying of the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam:

‘If someone comes to you seeking marriage and you are happy with their religion and character, then marry him.’

To avoid her regretting her impatience the women should be as careful as she possibly can, and she should not be hasty to accept this proposal until she has thoroughly researched about the man proposing.”

Imam An-Nasaa’ee said:

“Chapter: The Woman praying and making Istikhaarah to her Lord when she receives a marriage proposal.

Upon the authority of Anas that he said:

‘When the ‘iddah (prescribed waiting period) of Zainab had ended, the Messenger of Allah sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam said to Zayd: Propose to her for me. So I went to her and said: O Zainab; I have good news for you. The Messenger of Allah sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam sent me to you to propose on his behalf. She said: I will not do anything until I entrust this affair to my Lord. So she went and prayed. (Verses) of the Qur’aan were revealed (1) and the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam married her without any interference from her.”

Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Adam Al-Ethiopee said in his explanation of Nasaa’ee (27/116):

“This is pointing to the fact that Zainab obtained the right to boast due to her prayer and her making Istikhaarah to her Lord. When she turned to Him, who is free from all imperfections, He married her to the Messenger and revealed (verses) of the Qur’aan, that are recited, about her. Therefore, it is highly recommended that all women imitate her so that they can experience a blessing similar to what she received.”

Brothers and sisters, whenever we deviate from the guidance of the Book and the Sunnah, we have no one to blame for the misery and depression except ourselves.


1) This is referring to Surah Al-Ahzaab verse 37.

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