And we know that we have been commanded by Allah to save ourselves and our families from the fire whose fuel is men and stones.

How can a husband know this ayah and neglect the education of his wife and his daughters?

The husband in helping his wife with the household chores will be helping her in making out time to learn her Deen inshaAllah.

As for this article, what about women marrying at an early age? The man would acquire peace, and have a home and a wife to look after him, and this would ASSIST him in seeking knowledge. But marriage greatly increases the responsibility upon the woman of looking after the house, the husband, bearing children etc. which hinders her from having the time to seek knowledge.

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Indeed, it is true that choosing the correct husband for the woman is a great matter because after the marriage, the husband has more rights upon her than even her parents.

From what the scholars have mentioned regarding choosing the husband, they always mention the qualities which are mentioned in the several ahaadith of the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam. And those are that his deen should be correct (aqeedah wise and manhaj wise) and he should be one who knows the rights of the wife upon him.

The scholars have mentioned that if you choose a man who is upon taqwa, he will live with her in goodness and if anyone of them wants a separation, he will release her in goodness. Good character is very important since if he has good character in general, he will be good with his wife. Ibn Baz rahimahullah mentioned that true compatibility is in the Deen and not in where the individuals are from (i.e. country), even though being from a similar background does help in the compatibility factor.

There was an interesting story that was related from Ibn Baz rahimahullah.

“Let me relate a true story, told by one of the students of Sheikh Ibn Baz (Rahimullah). One day, the Sheikh was reading out loud a question from one of his female students which read something like this:

“Please ask any of your students if any of them would be interested in marrying me. I am a student of such and such and I am at such an age and am ready for marriage. The Mahr is only ONE Saudi Riyal and my father is here today to do the nikah”

(The student who related the story is actually our own dear Sheikh AA). He said basically all single brothers’ hands were up including himself.

Then Sheikh Ibn Baz asked: “Who did Fajr in Jama’ah in the Masjid every morning, never missing…?” And a lot of hands went down drastically with only a few left.

Then he asked: “Who fast Mondays and Thursdays?” a few more hands went down.

Then he asked: “Who did Tahajjud last night? And one hand remained and the Sheikh asked if he can afford to keep a wife. The answer was yes and he married that female student for only ONE Saudi Riyal (In Saudi standard, this is a real bargain).

May be we should follow that example. Allah knows best

Where can I get “Al-Imaam An-Nawawi’s book Al-Athkaar” from please.

Interesting reading.I have two daughters and would like info as to what type of man not to marry. Something other than the obvious like not praying, exercising the 5 pillars, physically abusive or lack of ability to take care of them. Perhaps, information of things that would be a great fitnah for them or would break the rib of their character. Choosing a mate for woman is detrimental because its one of the only times where the women can exercise her right to be selective. After, that she is at the mercy of her husband. Hopefully, he would be gentle kind, and considers the feelings of his wife but this is not always the case.